(I’ve gotten here by way of Greg Baugues’ talk on Developers and Depression, which I got to by way of reddit. So, umm, hi.)
So, the short(er) version of my story is that I’ve been being treated for depression for about 16 years, and diagnosed with ADD about 2-3 years ago. Overall, my depression seems to be (mostly) under control with my current level of meds. I still struggle tremendously with various issues, though.
The greatest issue I seem to wrestle with is feeling as though I am a lazy person. I procrastinate terribly (and consistently). I waste great amounts of time that I could be using to do things that I enjoy. In fact, that’s really a crux of things for me: I generally am not doing the things I enjoy (and, for that matter, not really enjoying most of the things I do). Since I tend to waste whole evenings (like this evening, for example), I tend to think of myself as lazy. I’m lazy because I didn’t do anything for the 5+ hours I’ve been home this evening.
I have hobbies that I don’t just enjoy, I LOVE. But I barely touch them. I don’t avoid them completely-- I just don’t do them most of the time. For example, I study Russian, but I only do my homework the day of my class, cramming it in the few hours I have between work and class. I do crafts, but they sit untouched for weeks at a time. And for me, developing is as much a hobby as a profession… I have a journal full of ideas for coding projects that I haven’t made any effort to start, and I have bug reports for existing projects that have lain untouched for ages.
So I feel lazy. That word again, lazy.
My therapist and I are on a quest to find a better word. The reality is, I do get a fair amount done: I manage to keep up with my job’s demands on my time, I make regular calls to my parents who live in other states, I keep my apartment (reasonably) clean, etc. But I have these chunks of free time that I just can’t account for when they’re gone. Not to say that I black out, that isn’t it. But this evening (Tuesday), for example, I got home at 5:30, and aside from eating dinner and about an hour spent watching the Rachel Maddow show, I honestly cannot tell you where the rest of my evening went. I can tell you this, I have nothing to show for it. No crafts-work, no code, no Russian.
So I appeal to the collective wisdom here: what is a good word for this, if not lazy?
Randy