I totally understand what you’re talking about. I’ve been under pressure lately and it’s been hard to go to bed before 1am… even on friday nights… because I’m anxious about what the next work day will bring and whether I’ll be able to handle it.
It’s not that I don’t like my job… it’s the lack of closure that make me anxious. I’m never really “done”. If I fixed bugs during the day, there will be new bugs to fix tomorrow. If I delivered a new feature, I’m already late on the next one.
We do scrum meetings every morning and to me they are like going to the dentist. It makes me feel like I have to deliver every day.
Managing expectations has always been challenging to me.
I’ve been seeing a therapist about my anxiety and we’ve discussed that problem at length. I’ve been trying to better manage my workload but it’s been tough.
One thing I’ve been trying to do is to establish worry free zones. It’s a time and place where I should not think about work. So for example, it’s ridiculous to think about work from 10pm to bedtime. I won’t get anything done anyway. So I try to unplug from slack/emails and disconnect.
On weekends, if there’s something really important to deliver next week, I might schedule some time on sunday afternoon to review my priorities for the week, but saturday is off limits.
And one last thing…
For me, exercise is the most important thing. When I’m active, I feel much less depressed/anxious, I feel more motivated about cooking and eating right and my sleep is better.
When I don’t exercise, I eat more take out and my sleeping patterns get messed up. Even CEO’s like Zuckerberg schedule time for exercise.